Could there be anything more important than a truly successful marital relationship, which leads to two people feeling content, cherished, adored (women) and respected (men)?
We are nearing the end of our 25th anniversary vacation in Miami and it has been the most fun and uplifting experience. We went boating in an alligator-filled lake down by the Florida swamplands, shopped till we dropped at the Sawgrass Mills Outlet Mall, and thoroughly enjoyed our hotel stay, sunset walks and restaurant outings in Miami. The weather’s been great, the food has been out of this world, and I am beyond grateful to Hashem and my husband for everything having worked out so wonderfully. Trully a dream come true.
Spending so much quality time with my husband, I had a sort of epiphany. Actually, it was just remembering and re-internalizing something very important that could get sidelined in the hustle and bustle of life: focusing on and working towards making my marriage a lifelong deep and loving relationship is a top priority for me and something I need to work towards on a daily basis.
There are certain attitudes, behaviors and actions that awaken deep feelings of love, rekindle a relationship and bring out the best in a man. Why not make these a priority? Could there be anything more important than a truly successful marital relationship, which leads to two people feeling content, cherished, adored (women) and respected (men)?
There are certain attitudes, behaviors and actions that awaken deep feelings of love, rekindle a relationship and bring out the best in a man. Why not make these a priority?
One day on our trip, when I had a little bit of downtime, I sat down with my pen and journal and recommitted on paper to focus on my marriage in a way that leads me towards the vision I have for it. This is what I jotted down:
- Make the weekly date night more consistent.
- Accept my husband for who he is (and know that any negativity that I see in him is in reality a mirrored reflection of some negativity within me and a call to check on my inner beliefs and self-talk).
- Admire and thank him regularly for working so hard for our family.
We went boating in an alligator-filled lake down by the Florida swamplands…
- Try to understand him by putting yourself in his shoes, give him the benefit of the doubt and help him take care of his health.
- Note to self: don’t be so “busy”, do whatever you have to do to be calm, keep the home neat, decluttered and tidy, look good for him, smile when greeting him at the door.
The above should be a way of life in my opinion, not something to do here and there when we remember. I’m so thankful that this time away with my husband gave me the push and clarity to remember this goal and recommit to it.
Wishing all of us ladies lovely vacation getaways and a wonderful marriage relationship. This is the one of the best investments we can ever make. Let’s go!
